This is quite obvious for all men that have a newborn in their home. So, what’s the point of this post? You can still help your wife with the nightly feeding.
Well, I can’t feed him myself so why bother getting up and losing sleep, too?
Because your wife is EXHAUSTED!
Here’s the scenario at my house:
My son is breast fed and my wife pumps. If I don’t help then she has to change his diaper, feed him, get him to go back to sleep and then pump. He eats every 2-3 hours. how much sleep do you think my wife gets in that situation?
How do I help? First off, I feed him at least once every night. Every other night I get up with him and change his diaper and console him back to sleep. This means my wife only has to feed him and then pump. I’m still back in bed before her, but she is getting more sleep, too. Of course, this set up is still evolving.
Find a system that works for both of you. I am training for a marathon and do my long runs on the weekend. As part of the deal I get the entire night off before that run.
Also, I am a morning person, so I get up early with my son and give my wife a chance to sleep in.
If you are making excuses for not helping your wife during the night… Stop. No matter how tired you think you are, chances are she is more so.
If you are helping, then she will show her appreciation.
My wife doesn’t want my help. (insert smell of cow manure) Even is she doesn’t ask for it, which she shouldn’t have to, you still need to step up somewhere. Do the laundry, clean the house.
My point is, if you have the energy to go play golf and your wife looks like death warmed over… well, who do you think is at fault?