Not true. I love my son, but wanted to make a point with this title. As I’ve said in earlier posts I have an infant son. As of this post he is 10 weeks old.
Lately, he has had some pretty severe acid reflux problems. He spent the last two days doing nothing but cry. After a while if you pay attention to your child’s crying you can discern the differences in a full diaper cry or an I’m hungry cry.
How do you handle something like this? The short answer. . . as best you can. In all reality I am limited by the fact that my son cannot communicate to me by any other method than to cry or not cry. So when he does cry I go into detective mode and hash out a solution.
Here is where the problem begins for some parents.
The stress that builds when you can’t help your child reaches a tipping point and your ability to function normal becomes hampered. Here in-lies the problem. When this stress should be internalized it is focused on the child instead, like it is their fault.
If you cannot manage the stress that is associated with the problem you are having with your child then set them down where they can be safe and walk away. In no way does this relieve you of your parenting duties. You just get a chance to collect your thoughts and compose yourself. This may include recognizing that you can’t handle this situation alone and may need to call for help.
If you do enlist the help of others you still need to be involved in the solution. Take a moment for yourself while the helper tends to your child, but get back in the game. If you abandon your child and don’t follow through with the solution then it will be easier to do so the next time.
I realized that I was severely flustered. The sound of his crying was like a saw on my ear drum. I had no clue how to relieve my son’s pain. So, I put him in his bouncy chair, strapped him in and walked into the next room. I was able to quickly clear my thoughts. This allowed me to build up an emotional wall and get back to my son, hold him and pat his back. Finally the pain subsided and I slept like a baby… I mean he slept like a baby.